Being in love
Loving is different from “being in love.” We actually need a new word for “being in love” (an updated vocabulary, as Jacque Fresco proposed).
To be in love with someone is indeed a mental illness, an addiction. Being in love is selfish, egotistical and obsessive. It is about your needs above anything else. You need the other person in your life, just like an addict needs his drugs.
We’ve all surely heard how someone “became obsessed” with another person, but the truth is they actually became “addicted“. And the obsessive behavior was their response to the addiction. It’s no different to the obsession of junkies, who do anything in their power to get the drug that they so desperately need.
The drug of those who are “in love” is another person, but they treat that person like an object, not a real human being, with feelings and needs. They want their fix, and they go to great extents to get it.
Love, on the other hand, is quite the opposite. To love someone is a selfless act, putting the needs of the other person above yours. That’s why you can love an animal, for example, but you cannot be “in love” with it.
And because you put the needs of the other person above yours, you will always want what’s best for them, even if that means going on separate ways. You will, of course, miss the other person, but without becoming obsessed with their presence.
I hope life treats you kind,
And I hope you have all you’ve dreamed of.
And I wish you joy and happiness,
But above all this I wish you love.