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5 Reasons to Stop Judging and Start Loving

We know in our hearts that judging people is not the right thing to do but that doesn’t always stop us from doing it. The truth of the matter is that when we judge others we actually harm ourselves.

Any time we send negative energy out into the universe we are the ones who will ultimately suffer for it.

Here are some valid reasons not to judge others:

1. We belittle ourselves

Often when we judge others harshly we are actually taking traits about ourselves that we don’t like and projecting them on to others. The next time you find yourself tempted to judge, look deep within yourself. Are you being critical of this person because they remind you of your own faults and failings?

2. It opens the door for negativity

Negativity begets negativity. Any type of negative energy that we put out into the universe will return to us in some form. Judgmental thoughts and beliefs open the door for negativity to waltz into our lives.

3. It diminishes our capacity for love

We cannot truly love anybody (including ourselves) when we harbor critical, judgmental thoughts. We will not experience authentic love and freedom if we chain ourselves to negativity. Focusing on the good in others helps sets the stage for a flow of positive energy in the universe and in our personal lives.

4. We don’t know the whole story

You don’t know what motivates people. Perhaps their behavior is the result of deep physical or emotional trauma. Maybe they went to bed hungry last night. Perhaps they are facing a financial crisis. They may be struggling with depression or addiction. Maybe their behavior strikes you as rude when it is actually a defense mechanism. Every person on the planet has experienced pain and suffering at some point in their lives. Give them the benefit of the doubt and hope they will do the same for you.

5. We miss out on potential blessings

We all share the same planet. Every single person who lives here has something special to offer. Each encounter we have with others is an opportunity to expand our own self-growth. If you close your heart and your mind by constantly finding fault then you could miss out on opportunities to meet and interact with people who may enrich your life and make you a better person.

Meditation paves the way for compassion toward ourselves and others. It requires no special skills or extensive training. All it requires is a willingness to “go with the flow” and a few minutes of your time.

To begin a meditation session, find a quiet spot that is free from distractions. Sit comfortably and breathe slowly and deeply. Focus on your breathing and nothing else. Deep, cleansing breaths will relax and revive your spirit.

Meditation encourages you to “live in the moment” which puts you in the proper state of mind for soulful reflection.

When practiced regularly, meditation can soothe the mind and provide a permanent solution to low self-esteem. When troubling, disturbing thoughts are replaced by positive affirmations the negative emotions lose their ability to harm us.

Meditation can help you break the habit of judging others because your mind will become accustomed to positive thoughts and affirmations. When you let go of your negative view of others you will feel a surge of energizing love that will positively affect every aspect of your life.

Reference: Operation Meditation;