For most of us, life starts out with unconditional love from our parents. Whether we were the angel child or the one with horns, they loved us regardless. They supported us when we were ungrateful, held us when we were fighting them and cheered for us even when we glared back in return. Yes, a parent’s love can endure the wrath of most any child. But, what about other relationships? What about the ones that aren’t between a parent and child? What about friends and lovers? Is it possible to experience unconditional love, when the blood that runs through their veins did not come partly from you?
The answer is a resounding YES! You can give unconditional love to anyone you choose. That’s the nice thing about love. It’s up to you who you share it with and to what level.
1. Love someone for who they are, not what they do
In other words, you can love someone’s good qualities even if you’re not particularly thrilled with some of their behaviors. Remember that we all screw up from time to time and make not-so-good choices. Love them regardless because you know that, deep down, they’re a good person.
2. Don’t withhold love, ever
That’s what makes love unconditional. You give it no matter what the circumstance. After all, if you just love them when it’s easy, is that really love? If you’re having difficulty showing love because you’re angry, frustrated or confused, tell them that. Let them know that you love them but that you’re struggling when it comes to showing it.
3. Always search for ways to show love
There are many things you can do to show someone that you love them. It’s more than just saying it or buying chocolates and flowers on special occasions. It’s helping run errands so their life is easier. It’s taking care of them when they’re ill and setting aside your TV time to sit with them and watch their favorite show.
4. Concentrate on giving more than receiving
Love isn’t a game that is scored. You don’t do for them only when they do for you. When you love someone, you give your love to them because you want to, not because you want them to show you love in return.
5. Meditate to allow yourself a greater capacity to love
When you engage in meditation, you experience greater connections with other people. You let go of whatever is holding you back and open yourself up to a level of closeness much greater than you ever had before. You’re happier and more at peace with yourself, which allows you to be happier and more at peace with them.
6. Don’t be afraid to give tough love if it becomes necessary
Just because you love someone doesn’t mean that you have to make their life easy and pain free. In fact, if you don’t let them experience some negative feelings, you’re actually doing them a disservice. We are not molded by the easy times, but by our struggles. Although we build our character with our successes, we build it more with our failures. Sometimes love requires letting someone fall. Just make sure you’re there to support them when they’re ready to get back up.
Unconditional love can be one of the hardest, yet most rewarding things you ever achieve. For, when you love without strings, it’s then that you experience the magic. You see what true love is and become witness to all that it can do. After all, true love is unconditional.
Source: Operation Meditation;